Crashed into you(r friend)

 It’s taken me 25 years to understand let alone action on my parent’s timeless mantra: not everyone is your friend. With the ones I’ve gained (and lost, obviously) who needs enemies. 


I wish I could say I was perfect. I’m not, which is precisely why I’m not proclaiming it. I am however questioning the validity of any friend or friendship from someone who left me with insults carefully crafted around my trauma and mental health that which I’ve allowed them close enough to see. 

One thing is guaranteed, once you’ve stooped that low, crashed your last out. I won’t be returning the favor. Because I’ve left and won’t return, period. There’s lines I don’t cross and I don’t paint pictures that can’t be erased. 

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